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STOP MAKING EXCUSES.
No one wants to hear them. No one. Not your parents, not your partner, not your boss, NO ONE. I know we all have a natural instinct to try and excuse our behavior, but NO ONE FUCKING CARES.
If you fuck up at work, do you think your boss wants a long list of reasons as to why it's okay you fucked up? No, not one bit. It's not going to make a difference. You still fucked up. Your boss is pissed, and it's not doing a thing to resolve the situation.
What it DOES do is make you look like someone who doesn't know how to take responsibility for her own actions. You're trying to pawn the fault off on circumstance. You can't take the heat; you can't handle the job and you're showing that to the world.
What people want is resolution. Resolutions are stronger by far than excuse. They make everyone happy, and they make you look good. You look on the top the situation, like a take charge, fix things attitude, and that's really good.
For example:
DUDE 1: You ate the last cookie! I didn't get a cookie! Asshole.
DUDE 2: Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't know you didn't have a cookie yet. *blank stare*
DUDE 1: Yeah? Well your apologies don't bring my cookies back! *runs away, crying*
DUDE 2: I am now filled with shame and guilt that I will carry around for the rest of my life.
Dude 2 gave an excuse here, and now everyone is unhappy. What should he have done?
DUDE 1: You ate the last cookie! I didn't get a cookie! Asshole.
DUDE 2: I'm sorry, but here, I have a squashed brownie in my purse. Will that do?
DUDE 1: Dude...you carry a purse...?
DUDE 2: Take the fucking brownie, dickweed.
Now see how everyone is much happier in the second scenario?
So, I say agaim: STOP MAKING EXCUSES.
No one wants to hear them. No one. Not your parents, not your partner, not your boss, NO ONE. I know we all have a natural instinct to try and excuse our behavior, but NO ONE FUCKING CARES.
If you fuck up at work, do you think your boss wants a long list of reasons as to why it's okay you fucked up? No, not one bit. It's not going to make a difference. You still fucked up. Your boss is pissed, and it's not doing a thing to resolve the situation.
What it DOES do is make you look like someone who doesn't know how to take responsibility for her own actions. You're trying to pawn the fault off on circumstance. You can't take the heat; you can't handle the job and you're showing that to the world.
What people want is resolution. Resolutions are stronger by far than excuse. They make everyone happy, and they make you look good. You look on the top the situation, like a take charge, fix things attitude, and that's really good.
For example:
DUDE 1: You ate the last cookie! I didn't get a cookie! Asshole.
DUDE 2: Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't know you didn't have a cookie yet. *blank stare*
DUDE 1: Yeah? Well your apologies don't bring my cookies back! *runs away, crying*
DUDE 2: I am now filled with shame and guilt that I will carry around for the rest of my life.
Dude 2 gave an excuse here, and now everyone is unhappy. What should he have done?
DUDE 1: You ate the last cookie! I didn't get a cookie! Asshole.
DUDE 2: I'm sorry, but here, I have a squashed brownie in my purse. Will that do?
DUDE 1: Dude...you carry a purse...?
DUDE 2: Take the fucking brownie, dickweed.
Now see how everyone is much happier in the second scenario?
So, I say agaim: STOP MAKING EXCUSES.
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